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How to have a happy marriage with Erika Botha

Erika Botha is a relationship expert and marriage coach in Canada, who has a passion to help couples reach their own happy place within their relationship. Effective communication is key to a healthy and thriving relationship. Here are some tips for communicating with your husband: 1. Active Listening: Pay attention when your husband is speaking. Show that you’re engaged by making eye contact, nodding, and using verbal cues like “I understand” or “Go on.” Avoid interrupting and truly listen to what he’s saying. 2. Use kind words: A kind word can change your marriage today – we all seek love. 3. Choose the Right Time and Place: Find a suitable environment where you can talk without distractions or interruptions. Timing matters too; avoid discussing important matters when one or both of you are stressed or tired. 4. Be Clear and Direct: Be straightforward about your thoughts and feelings. Avoid being passive-aggressive or hinting at things indirectly. Clearly express your needs, concerns, and expectations. 5. Use “I” Statements: When discussing issues, frame your thoughts using “I” statements. For example, say, “I feel hurt when…” instead of “You always make me feel…”. This approach reduces defensiveness and encourages understanding. 6. Never use these words: “You always…” “You never…” “In all these years…” “I am confused…” “I’ve never heard somebody say that…” 7. Empathize: Put yourself in his shoes and try to understand his perspective. Empathy helps create a more compassionate and supportive atmosphere for open communication. 8. Body Language: Nonverbal cues matter. Maintain open and positive body language. Avoid crossing your arms, rolling your eyes, or showing signs of impatience. 9. Manage Emotions: If the conversation becomes emotional, take a breather if needed. It’s okay to pause and gather your thoughts before continuing the discussion. 10. Avoid Blame and Criticism: Focus on the issue at hand rather than attacking your husband personally. Use constructive language and aim for a collaborative solution. 11. Limit Screen Time: In today’s digital age, it’s important to minimize distractions from phones, TVs, and computers during important conversations. 12. Use Humor: Appropriate humor can ease tension and help you both feel more comfortable discussing difficult topics. 13. Seek Feedback: Ask for his thoughts and feelings to ensure you’re understanding each other correctly. This also shows that you value his perspective. 14. Compromise: Be willing to find middle ground and make compromises. Relationships require give and take. 15. Positive Reinforcement: Acknowledge and appreciate each other’s efforts to communicate better. Positive reinforcement encourages continued improvement. 16. Take a Break if Necessary: If a conversation becomes too heated or unproductive, agree to take a break and come back to it later with cooler heads. 17. Professional Help: If communication issues persist or escalate, consider seeking the assistance of a couples’ therapist or counselor. Remember that communication is a two-way street. Both you and your husband need to be willing to listen, understand, and express yourselves to build a strong and healthy relationship. To get in contact with Erika, follow links below or email her at erika@erikabotha.com https://www.erikabotha.com/  / erika.botha.7106  https://www.instagram.com/erika_botha… To book our presenter for your next event go to http://www.lornagreyling.com